The challenge that I’m taking on now is the planning for the interactions my children and I are going to have after they turn 18.
According to the reasoning of my mathematical formula for human relationships, there’s going to be a drop in “why” I’m spoken to as much or as often by my children after a certain age.
Is this natural? It can be considered that, depending on your culture. But, that’s not what I want. What I want is a tightly knit family that doubles as its own community.
Many of the Chinese and Japanese have accomplished that well enough. The Italians and Jews, as well. Why can’t we?
So, I refer to my formula: Human relationships are approximately equal to the product of the potency and quantity of experience in one sequence of time, to the power of why they occur.
Human Relationships ≈ t(qs)^w
What drops in value after a certain age is the “[w]hy” factor. At which point, especially in traditional Chinese families, the older people become a guilt-based obligation on the children. The dynamics are shame-based if the child doesn’t keep interacting with the elders.
That’s not what I want. I want to maximize freedom for my children. This means that I have to be worthy of their time and attention once they get to a certain
This is why learning economics and business-building is so valuable to us as a family and tribe. Then, there’s martial arts, physics, engineering, and philosophy to consider. These are developed skills and knowledge areas that make me a valuable person to speak to. I’d be what professionals would hire as a consultant. Though, because I’m their father/grandfather, everything would be free or very near to it.
When my sons and daughters grow of age, sure, they can continue speaking to me because they love me. But, it would also behoove them to continue speaking to me because of the legitimate value I can continue bringing to their
“Dad, I’m not seeing what I’m doing wrong in this business plan. We’re struggling to break even with this project…can you help me solve this puzzle that’s wrong in our marketing?”
“Dad, we’re going through a merger with the technology firm in New York. I need someone I can trust to handle this paperwork. I have a lawyer I trust, but he’s no physicist. I need a scientist to check these designs before we sign off on this.”
“Dad, how’s it been in Alaska? Your grandson’s about to reach the proper age for Vǎȑugøge. Mind if I send him for training up in the mountains where you are for the summer? It’s about time he learns the family fighting style.” (…which doubles as a reason to bond with my grandchildren).
If I keep working on myself, if I keep evolving and learning with my mathematical formula in mind, then I can evolve my role in the family and tribe according to what will maximize the quality of human relationships in my life until I die.
As a result, if we build our fledgling culture on this philosophy, there’s no reason why it has to stop with me. Because what happens when the *new* cycle begins to occur, but it’s one that’s uplifting? Imagine it becoming a cultural *norm* that everyone in the family or tribe, in general, has built key educations and skills, areas of expertise with which they use to benefit each other as both a family *and* community?
Declaring cultural independence was one of the greatest, if not the greatest, decisions I’ve ever made. I really can’t wait to finish this website.